33 Day Purity Boot Camp
In preparation for Total Marian Consecration
My Dear Brethren,
I have felt compelled to write to you about this topic. The word “compelled” actually would be an
understatement because this “33 Day Purity Boot Camp” has not left my head
since its conception. I started formulating this “battle plan” a year ago when
I decided to get serious about my own personal war with lust.
I write you this
not only for my sake, but for your sake. As Paul says in his 2nd
letter to the Corinthians, “For it is all for your sake, so that as grace
extends to more and more people it may increase thanksgiving, to the glory of
God.” I would like to invite you on a 33 day exploration into the LORD’S grace.
For 33 days I would like to journey together, as pilgrims to experience life in
a richer way. In John 10:10 Jesus teaches, “I came that they may have life, and
have it abundantly.” How does He give us this life? One word: grace! Question
456 in The Baltimore Catechism asks, “What do you mean by grace?” It
then answers, “By grace I mean a supernatural gift of God bestowed on us,
through the merits of Jesus Christ, for our salvation.” Grace is the only thing
that will free us from our addiction to pornography. I would like to share with you ways to invite
grace, life, and true happiness into your life. I thought of the 33 Day Purity
Boot Camp while I was reflecting on the various writings of the saints and
doctors of the church, but these are in no way my own ideas. If you were to
take all 2000 years of the Church’s advice and compare it, you’ll be very
amazed to notice how similar it is. Why? Because good theology is always
plagiarism; there can never be “new” truth, only new ways of understanding that
truth. If someone comes up to you and says, “I’ve had a revelation of new
truth.” Run! I have no new truths to share with you but perhaps a new way of
seeing it in your life.
We have been called to be soldiers for Christ (2Tim 2:4). We
have been called to be pure (Eph 5:5). We fight three major enemies: the devil,
the world, the flesh. Every good soldier knows and understands his enemies. He
gains this knowledge from going to boot camp. So too, if we wish to be soldiers
for Christ, we must undergo a boot camp, so to speak. We must learn how to
effectively defeat out three enemies:
The Devil:
He tempts us with thoughts of self-gratification, lustful
images in our minds, and past failures. There is no debating with him. If you
encounter him -run. He’s an angelic being; he is way smarter than you’ll ever
be. Never debate or play with temptation. Shut the door as soon as you feel it
coming near. It wins every time. Run. “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your
adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to
devour” 1 Peter 5:8.
The World:
Meaning the secular world. It feeds you lies. Lies about
purity, lies about freedom, and lies about what’s morally acceptable. We are in
a culture war and you’re being blasted at 24/7. If you want to beat your battle
with lust, you must learn to become counter-cultural. This will mean some
sacrifice, but it will also mean freedom. “You adulterous people! Do you not
know that friendship with the world is enmity with God?” James 4:4.
The Flesh:
Because of our fallen natures we have a tendency to choose
sin. You’re reading this because you most likely have an issue with lust. Lust
is an inordinate love of the pleasure of the flesh. Your issue with lust didn’t
conquer you over night and it will not surrender over night. New habits must be
learned. Right now you’re a slave to your appetites but this process is about
making your appetites a slave to your will. “For the desires of the
flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit, are against the
flesh, for these are opposed to each other…” Gal 5:17.
“The world, the devil, and the flesh are a band of
adventurers who take advantage of the weakness of that savage you have within
you. In exchange for the poor bauble of pleasure, which is worth nothing, they
want you to hand over to them the pure gold and the pearls, the diamonds and
the rubies, drenched in the living redeeming blood of your God- the price and
the treasure of your eternity.” Saint
Josemaria Escriva.
Here are five ways the saints throughout the ages have
recommend beating our three enemies.
1. Prayer
2. Fasting
3. Study
4. Mortification (Exercise)
5. Acts of Charity
I can promise
you, that if we apply those 5 things daily for 33 days, we will see our
lives totally transformed! Just as boot camp doesn’t automatically make a good
soldier, boot camp is in no way a cure for lust or pornography. No, that comes
from lots of experience on the battle field. Boot camp is the starting point.
No boot camp… no solider. We must learn to crawl before we walk. This 33 Day Purity Boot Camp is meant to lay
a foundation of good habits. Habits, that in time, will become virtues. Virtues
are the opposite of vice. It’s been said that it takes three weeks to build a
new habit. Saint Louis De Montfort recommend a 33 day preparation, thus the
inspiration for our training. Right now
we have many vices to beat. Therefore, for 33 days, “gird up your minds, be
sober, set your hope fully upon the grace that is coming to you at the
revelation of Jesus Christ” 1 Peter 1:13.
Prayer
“If you’re not a man of prayer, I don’t believe in the
sincerity of your intentions when you
say that you work for Christ.” - St. Josemaria Escriva
“By often turning your eyes on Him in meditation, your
whole soul will be filled with him.” St. Francis De Sales
For 33 days commit 20 minutes daily to your prayer life.
Prayer is like exercise; at first it will seem unnatural and even painful. But
the more you do it, the more you will enjoy it and the more you will see where
it is beneficial for your life. Only you know the state of your prayer life.
Pick one thing to focus on for 33 days. If your prayer life is non-existent,
start small. If you are a daily prayer warrior, add something substantial.
Peter Kreeft, one of my favorite modern Christian writers said this, “I
strongly suspect that if we saw all the difference even the tiniest of our
prayers to God make, and all the people those little prayers were destined to
affect, and all the consequences of those effects down through the centuries,
we would be so paralyzed with awe at the power of prayer that we would be
unable to get up off our knees for the rest of our lives.” No relationship will
thrive without communication. Prayer is how we communicate with our Father.
There are many types of prayer: intercessory, thanks giving, contemplative, and
adoration. Spend 33 days on your knees.
Some ideas: Here at P.O.R.N. Militia we recommend the
most
Holy Rosary.
· Daily morning, noon and night prayers.
· Novenas
· Chaplet of Divine Mercy
· Pray the Psalms daily
· Liturgy of the Hours
· Daily Mass
· Eucharistic adoration.
· Mediation of the Stations of the Cross
· Prayer journals
· Use a prayer book
Fasting
Fasting is the support of our soul: it gives us wings to
ascend on high, and to enjoy the highest contemplation! God, like an indulgent
father, offers us a cure by fasting.-Saint John Chrysostom
Ordinarily you eat more than you need. And the natural
result, a heavy fullness and discomfort, benumbs your mind and renders you
unfit to savor supernatural treasures. - St. Josemaria Escriva
Above we talked about prayer. You have to say “no” to
something, in order to make time to pray. You have to say “no” to anything, in
order to do anything else! That is the premise of fasting, saying “no” to
something good to achieve something great. By fasting we become the masters of
our physical desires instead of becoming slaves to them. Fasting is a biblical
discipline that can be defended from both the Old and New Testaments. Christ
expected his disciples to fast (Mt 9: 14-15) and gave them instructions for how
they should do so (Mt 6: 16-18). For 33
days, fast from something you consider good and enjoyable in your life in
exchange for something better. Fasting is deciding to downshift, power-down,
turn off, unplug, and walk away from any distractions that might stop you from
being fully effective in your life. Set aside any thing that might stop you
from being the best husband, worker, friend, and disciple. For 33 days “Be
still” and fast daily. If you can’t tell yourself “no” to a piece of pizza
how are you going to be able to tell yourself “no” when you are sexually
tempted? For 33 days stop and smell the roses. Stop staring into a screen and
start staring into your family. Logoff facebook and put your face in a real
book. Pull out of the drive-thru line and cook something. Turn off the radio
and say a prayer. Get off the couch and go walking. Actually use your iPhone to
make a phone call. I’m not saying that any of those things are bad. There is
nothing intrinsically wrong with television, the internet, fast-food, music, or
even iPhones. But the misuse of those things is another subject all together.
Our culture wants constant instant entertainment. Our culture fills itself with
continuous noise and distraction. Our culture uses every means of wealth and
technology to look for something- meaning. But ironically our culture refuses
to stop and listen. Stop and listen to what God is telling you.
Some ideas: Here at P.O.R.N. Militia we recommend
skipping a meal and staying away from all forms of secular media for the entire
33 days.
· Your favorite foods for healthier foods
· Television for a reading
· Secular music for Christian music
· Facebook and other “social” networks for real conversation
· Watching sports for playing sports
· Time for yourself for time for your family
· Giving up fishing for fishing for men
· Giving up shopping for giving to the poor
Study
Ignorance of Scripture is ignorance of Christ.- St.
Jerome
You pray, you mortify yourself, you labor at a thousand
apostolic activities…but you don’t study. You are useless, then, unless you
change your ways. Don’t tell me you’re good; you’re only “goodish”.-St.
Josemaria Escriva
In our modern time of instant knowledge we have no excuse
for not knowing out faith. “You will seek me and find me; when you seek me with
all your heart” Jeremiah 29:13. Jesus puts it this way in Luke 11:9-10 “And I
tell you, Ask, and it will be given you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it
will be opened to you. For every one who asks receives, and he who seeks finds,
and to him who knocks it will be opened.” We do not have to go to any drastic
measure to ask, seek, or knock - no it’s just a click away. We have every
resource and every imaged type of media at the tip of our fingers and yet we
are ignorant of our faith. Those scriptures told us God is pleased when we seek
truth- not when we become experts. No one likes a “know-it-all.” God is pleased
when we are seeking to learn our faith. C.S. Lewis says, “Christianity, if
false, is of no importance, and if true, of infinite importance. The only thing
it cannot be is moderately important.” If that is true, ask yourselves, “Why do
I have sports statistics memorized but I can’t explain the Church’s teaching on
the sacrament of reconciliation? Why am I an expert on hunting and fishing but
cannot understand what the church teaches about contraception. Why can I tell
you all about mechanics but can’t hold a conversation about the teachings of
Christ. Why can I quote movies but have no comprehension of the Bible? Why am I fluent in stock market lingo but
cant hold a conversation about the church’s teaching on Marian dogma?” St.
Jerome said, “Ignorance of Scripture is ignorance of Christ.” I would also
submit that ignorance of Church teaching is also ignorance of Christ. Because
the Church is the Body of Christ, therefore when the church speaks, it’s with
Christ’s voice. For 33 days, spend twenty minutes daily learning about your
faith. You can’t give to others what you don’t already possess yourself.
Also find out more about porn addiction. How can you BEAT IT, if you don’t know
ABOUT IT?
Some ideas: Here at P.O.R.N. Militia we
recommend reading the New Testament and
the writings of the saints.
Books
· “God Wants You Happy” by Jonathan Morris
· “Be a Man” by Fr. Larry Richards
· “Introduction to the Devout Life” by Francis de
Sales
· “33 Days to Morning Glory” by Fr. Michael E. Gaitley
· “Jesus of Nazareth” by Pope Benedict XVI
· “True Devotion to Mary” by St. Louis De Montfort
· “Victory over Vice” by Fulton Sheen
· “The Way” by St. Josemaria Escriva
· “Visits to the Most Blessed Sacrament” by St.
Alphonsus Liguri
Also find out more about porn addiction.
-
“The
Porn Trap” by Wendy & Larry Maltz
- “Porn
Nation” by Michael Leahy
- “Good
News about Sex & Marriage” by Christopher West
Media
- “Taking Down Goliath” by Matt Fradd
- “Pure of Heart” By Jason Evert
Mortification (Exercise)
To labor is to pray. -Motto of the Benedictines
Say to your body: “I would rather keep you in slavery
than be myself your slave.”-Josemaria Escriva
You may be thinking, “How does doing exercise have anything
to do with my spiritual life?” It has everything to do with your spiritual
life- well at least half! We are not purely spiritual beings, we are not
angles. We are creatures that are made up of soul and body. Part of spiritual
discipline is physical discipline. Research shows that people who exercise have
a better chance of beating addiction. St. Paul refers to the spiritual life in
terms of physical exercise, “Do you not know that in a race all the runners
compete, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it. Every
athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a
perishable wreath, but we an imperishable. Well, I do not run aimlessly, I do
not box as one beating the air; but I pommel my body and subdue it, lest after
preaching to others I myself should be disqualified” 1 Corinthians
9:24-27. As with your prayer life, only
you know where you are physically. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t exercised
in years or if you run 5 miles a day. Do something extra. Add something new. Pick
some form of exercise and stick with it- twenty minutes a day for 33 days.
Some Ideas:
· Walking
· Jogging
· Join a gym
· work out with someone
· Kick-boxing
· Join a intramural softball league
· Weight Lifting
Acts of Charity
Anything done for another is done for oneself.-Pope John
Paul II
Being charitable doesn’t mean giving away old clothes or
copper pennies…let us- you and I - give ourselves unstintingly. And we’ll keep
those who come in contact with us from going through the same sad experience.
Charity is the truest form of love. In the Greek it’s known
as: agape or the love of God or Christ for mankind. Charity is to do something
for someone and not expect anything in return- to love other people just
because they are creatures of God. Jesus said that we should love our neighbors
as if they were ourselves. Acts of Charity involve giving of our time, talent,
and treasure. Acts of charity are not about BIG acts. It could be simply things
in out lives. Or as Mother Teresa said, “To show great love for God and our
neighbor we need not do great things. It is how much we put in the doing, that
makes our offering something and beautiful to God.” For 33 days look for
small opportunities to make other peoples lives better- one small action at a
time- record what you did. C.S. Lewis said this about charity:
“I do not believe one can settle
how much we ought to give. I am afraid the only safe rule is to give more than
we can spare. In other words, if our expenditure on comforts, luxuries, amusements, etc,
is up to the standard common among those with the same
income as our own, we are probably giving away too little. If our charities do
not at all pinch or hamper us, I should say they are too small There ought to
be things we should like to do and
cannot do because
our charitable expenditure excludes them. I am speaking now of "charities" in
the common way. Particular cases of distress among your own relatives, friends,
neighbors or employees, which God, as it were, forces upon your notice, may
demand much more: even to the crippling and endangering of your own position.”
Some Ideas
· Give money to a charity
· Volunteer at a soup kitchen
· Do more duties around the house for your spouse
· Do chores for your wife
· Volunteer at a food bank
· counsel and prayer at an abortion clinic
· Help at an after school program
· Give money to any beggar who asks for money
· “Pay it forward”
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For 33 days focus on Prayer, Fasting, Study, Exercise and
Acts of Charity! For this Boot camp to be successful, you will have to do ALL
five in some way for ALL 33 Days. That you should put away the old self of your
former way of life, corrupted through deceitful desires, and be renewed in the
spirit of your minds, and put on the new self, created in God's way in
righteousness and holiness of truth” Ephesians 4:22-24. Take 33 days and
commit. Commit to God, others, and yourself. Pick things that will be a
struggle for you. But do not set goals for your spiritual journey that are
unrealistic and unattainable. Don’t set yourself up for failure. But don’t be
upset when you fail. If you mess up or miss a day, do not be discouraged--start
back immediately! In closing, I think C.S. Lewis says it best:
“We may, indeed, be sure that perfect
chastity-like perfect charity-will not be attained by any merely human efforts.
You must ask for God’s help. Even when you have done so, it may seem to you for
a long time that no help, or less help than you need, is being given. Never
mind. After each failure, ask forgiveness, pick yourself up, and try again.
Very often what God first helps us towards is not the virtue itself but just
this power of always trying again. For however important chastity or courage,
or truthfulness, or any other virtue may be, this process trains us in habits
of the soul which are more important still.
It cures our illusions about ourselves and teaches us to depend on God.
We learn, on the one hand, that we cannot trust ourselves even in our best
moments and, on the other that we need not despair even in our worst, for our failures
are forgiven. The only fatal thing is to sit down content with anything less
than perfection.”
At the end of this 33 day process we will be ready to
consecrate ourselves to the Mother of Purity. I‘ll be posting more about the
consecration in days to come. “Love our Lady. And she will obtain abundant
grace to help you conquer in your daily struggle. And the enemy will gain
nothing by those perversities that seem to boil up continually within you,
trying to engulf in their fragrant corruption the high ideals, those sublime
commands that Christ himself has placed in your heart. Serviam!- “I will serve!”-
St. Josemaria Escriva
I will be posting daily prayers, reflections and scriptures
as we embark on our journey to consecrate ourselves to Mary- Good Luck
soldiers, THIS IS WAR.
